Self-confidence? Do you have it? Do you want it? What exactly is it that is limiting your self-confidence?
“Low self-esteem is like driving through life with your hand brake on.” -- Maxwell Maltz
Let's be real - it doesn't take much for your self-confidence to be knocked, does it? However, low self-esteem can hinder your life in so many ways. But contrary to popular belief unlimited self-confidence isn't something people are born with.
It’s something they work towards, although this doesn’t mean they aren't naturally confident. They could be but they also have to work hard on maintaining their confidence in the face of negativity and knockbacks.
So how can you improve your self-confidence?
Do Something That Makes You Feel Better
Indulge in self-care, treat yourself or get your health back on track. Making yourself feel good can come in many different ways and indulging in self-care is a great way to do this. Whether it is an at-home pamper session, visiting a website to see what dental work you can have to improve your smile or change an issue you are worried about.
Whatever it is, let yourself be the centre of attention to give yourself that little boost.
Do One Thing Every Day That Scares You
Face your fears head-on. If it is worrying you, look it in the eye and take away the issue. Resolve it or come up with a way to work through the problem. Leaving it on a low buzz in the background will continue to chip away at your self-confidence in the long term.
So address and do it. You will thank yourself in the long term.
Give Yourself A Chance To Win
Telling yourself you will fail is a sure-fire way to actually fail. Don't. Just stop and remove the self-doubt. Break the task down into small manageable chunks and focus on each different step. Look at how you can succeed and put it into action. By giving yourself the chance to win and excel, you will already be halfway there.
Confront Your Inner Critic
This step may require you to get professional assistance but ask yourself why you think the way you do?
When that little voice pops up and tells you that you aren't good enough, ask why? Why aren't I good enough and where is the proof? Why can't this time be different? Then go and prove it wrong.
This isn't always as easy as it sounds though. Changing the way you think and act especially towards yourself is a long hard road that could require the intervention of cognitive behaviour therapy. But in the long run, you have to decide if it is worth it to get yourself the life you dream of.
Help Others Around You
A great short term confidence boost is to help others around you. This will prove to yourself that you are better, capable of more and you can do it! Then apply this confidence to yourself.
Volunteer, mentor, or simply help out, whatever works for you will help you make sure you can start to build confidence in yourself. Collaboration.